The Writing Dose

Being financially independent is not just related to money but independence as well. A financially stable person never bows in front of the wrong. Self-assurance and self-esteem come from being financially independent. I have seen a lot of women out there being taught the importance of marriage, kids, family, and society. But they are not much aware of the importance of being self-sufficient and not depending on others. I feel the future will belong to   only those who understand the importance of investing and not just savings. I won't state myself as an expert in investing but I am not a newbie for sure. The majority of the people follow a set process- they work, earn, spend, cry, work more, earn more, spend more, cry more well this is an endless cycle. In today's world no matter which family you belong to, whom you are married to, how much ancestor property you have. Financial independence is really important. "Invest wisely, so that you can live wisely"

Being a girl from a typical Indian class family, I have been taught that family should always be my first priority. No matter what family comes first. Even before myself. But I guess the teachings never worked for me. I was never enough invested in my family. Instead, career has been my focus since I was a kid. I guess I was around 6 years old back then. People around me were not able t o  digest the fact of me….a woman being overly demanding in her career and with high standards in personal life. Actually, I don't blame them. It's a matter of fact that none of them had seen a girl like me in person before. As years passed by my priority still remained the same. To date, I don't regret the fact of being invested in my career more than in my personal life. Just because that's not how it is usually done, doesn't mean I am doing it wrong. See, I don't have a problem with other girls out there who focus on being an adarshwadi beti or bahu. That's okay….do it….bu...

The great 2020.  A year that molded all of us in one or the other way. The year was difficult to pass and is now more difficult to forget. Life before and after lockdown has been very different. I can literally write a book about it. Though it will be a little depressing, so I am just refraining from doing that. If I tell you about the changes I have been through, I am sure you will be able to relate. Let's start with   a small thing- me going back to my hometown (in that monotonous routine). I was more of a roller coaster person. Making random plans, going on solo trips, going to places alone, smoking on streets. All of this freedom of being me was taken away within a fraction of minutes (and I mean minutes). Going back was never easy, staying in a joint family, no cigarettes, no alcohol, and mostly no freedom. Just a 12-hour long job and constant reminders of a whole lot of expectations. No no no no….not expecting what I do in my career but being an Indian middle-class ...

We all tend to keep a checklist of the kind of person we would like our life partner to be. And with time list changes, our expectations, and our priority, everything changes. Imagine being at a stage in your life where you have been broken a lot of times and accepted that you might never find someone who will understand and accept you the way you are. And then you meet the perfect match. Seems like a dream, right? Well Well Well!!!!! this dream became my reality. At the time,  w hen all I expected was to discover new men out there just talk and explore, I met a guy who just perfectly completed my checklist, and honestly, he was putting in a lot of efforts to make sure that this works (as in we become us). I am being honest about the good vibes I get from him but my past experiences bring those random thoughts and make me give it a practical view before investing myself in him. We have been talking for approximately a month now. With him, I feel free, liberated, and most importantl...

Most of the people around me tend to live normal and monotonous life. A life in which they do the same thing every day, you know that general routine. Waking up in the morning, eating breakfast, cribbing about their jobs, getting into a little argument with people around them, then going to work, and then crying about other random things in life or maybe life in general or blah blah. My parents live a normal life   too (only because not learning new things is the new normal). As a child, I always use to ask them if they get bored with the life that they are living and if they are really happy with it. The answer to this question has been the same for years, and honestly, I am not even expecting it to change. My father used to say “duniya aise hi chalti hai, pet palne ke liye kaam toh karna hi padta hai”, khushiyo se badkar hoti hai duniyadari. And the first thought that used to cross my mind was why would you lead a life that doesn’t make you happy? A life that doesn’t make you loo...