Personal vs Professional life.

Being a girl from a typical Indian class family, I have been taught that family should always be my first priority. No matter what family comes first. Even before myself.

But I guess the teachings never worked for me. I was never enough invested in my family. Instead, career has been my focus since I was a kid. I guess I was around 6 years old back then.

People around me were not able to digest the fact of me….a woman being overly demanding in her career and with high standards in personal life. Actually, I don't blame them. It's a matter of fact that none of them had seen a girl like me in person before.

As years passed by my priority still remained the same. To date, I don't regret the fact of being invested in my career more than in my personal life. Just because that's not how it is usually done, doesn't mean I am doing it wrong.

See, I don't have a problem with other girls out there who focus on being an adarshwadi beti or bahu. That's okay….do it….but do it only if it makes you happy. Don't do it for the sake of society. Do it because you want to do it, not because you think you are incapable of doing something professionally.

As a girl, it seems to be a selfish act to think about yourself, instead of putting your family's needs first. You know that cringy line "tum humare ghar ki izzat ho". I mean WTF?? Who put your family's respect in my vagina or in my hands?? Who is this fucking society telling me how to be an ideal woman???? Who the fuck are you to show me a way of leading a life that suits you??

I have all the rights to be happy. All the rights to be who I am for real and explore the true myself. I don't seek anyone's permission and I don't even feel the need if doing so.

We are always taught not to be a leader. So now what? Do the things that scare you.

  • Go for that solo trip
  • Ask your crush out (what worst will happen? He will say yes😂)
  • Wear that short dress
  • Give the reply you had in your head when you were judged
  • Be you, explore yourself
  • Do whatever the fuck you want, just don't give fake expectations

Honestly, I have lowered my family’s expectations of me so much, that me coming back home for 2–3 days makes them feel happy. Yes girls, do it. Be happy…Alone.

Higher your standards and lower other people's expectations. Keep it simple. Do it for yourself. Be a little selfish. That's okay.

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